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Despite years of intense research and personal study, most of us women have not yet been able to produce a husband who really listens. We can urge our spouses to listen and make an occasion for them to “express their feelings” but the fact of the matter is there are no guarantees that we will achieve any meaningful results from all our attempts.
Nevertheless, through our persistent efforts, some of us wives have successfully trained our husbands to at least adopt a semi-satisfying listening stance. That helps some. At least it gives us the impression they are listening, even if it’s only for a few fleeting moments. This can be somewhat satisfying, but only because deep inside we know that if they don’t hear us the first time, we WILL be sure to bring it up once again under another guise until we get at least a head nod, raised eye brows, or SOMETHING!
Although we women know that the listening capabilities of the 2010 husband are lacking, we are sure that what they do possess is great eyesight. So if you want your husband to notice you, emphasize any and all visual stimuli. In plain terms, get him to notice you if that means jumping in his lap when he’s reading the paper, hiding his cell phone or even sabotaging his laptop. Do whatever you have to do is all I’m saying, but get him to notice. Although this technique is great for personal romance, it still doesn’t help us with our main problem; getting him to listen.
In spite of some malfunction in this arena, we wives cannot lose all hope for future stimulating conversations. I believe it was the most recent Consumer Report magazine that claimed some kind of reprogramming software coming available soon. So, although the 2010 husband’s communicative skills are still deficient, don’t give up hope. I heard that Microsoft will soon be announcing a new and improved product that will be ready in the next millennium. Someone tell Mrs. Gates to kiss Bill for all us women…that is, if she can get his attention. Women, hang in there!!! J
“For I am confident of this very thing,
that He who began a good work in you
will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Phil 1:6 NAS
Beth Baus is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and has a private practice in Riverside, California. She is an instructor for Apostolic School of Theology/Hope International University. Sis Baus attends Inland Lighthouse Church pastored by Rev. Larry Booker. Check out her new website…thank you Bro. Aydin for doing such a great job putting the website together! www.ourhealthyfamilies.org
